Why people date other marrieds?
Speak about a loaded topic that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Amusing thing, married dating have been going on since the beginning of the world. Affairs can be filled with problems, cause heartache, and other harms. Plus you have to wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty matter, finances, age dissimilarity, religious education, remorse, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I should identify an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married woman looking for dating married men.
Why do people have affairs? There are as many answers as there are seeking affairs. I suppose mostly though it is only the human nature, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Naturally we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and exciting, and sex makes us flee the world for a short period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Some people can switch the wish on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another being, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos the world has erected against married dating. For many people the yearnings will overcome their worries and make them risk the rage of not only their relatives, but society also. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is horribly pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not wound your spouse or anyone else? You will need to minimize the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the major group, gigantic truly. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they are happy in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the children to think about. Your funds are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live as a family besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them completing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An extra-marital affair at times solves the trouble while keeping the marriage undamaged.
Avoidance, sorrowfully this is a ordinary groung I fear. One or the other, as a rule the husband is sexually neglecting his spouse for a multitude of reasons. As a male I really appreciate you guys neglecting your wives and making them accessible to us males of romance, making them “hot milfs” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, could be compassion is disappeared, could be it is the closeness, could be neglect. Could be we have just developed apart, our relulas concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is conflicting of what you want. Could be I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they search for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for financial gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.